Along with the crazy excitement, there are some universal worries when you find out you are pregnant with your second baby. Will I love the new baby as much as my first one? (Yes) How am I going to handle both kids at the same time? (Still figuring that out myself) And the question I worried about the most, how will Avery react to a new sibling?
I think I really started worrying when I found out we were having another girl. Sisters. I come from a family of girls. I know girls. Girls are hard. I remember a lot of fighting and taking sides and moodiness. Sisters are a delicate thing. I was excited that my 2 girls would have each other. I just want them to have the picture perfect sister relationship. How do I force this? Kidding…kinda.
Callie has been with us five months now (and I still need to get a couple of updates posted. Whoops!). We’re still getting personalities and schedules figured out. But one thing is pretty obvious: Avery loves Callie something fierce. And Callie adores Avery.
You hear stories all the time about the older sibling regressing, or throwing more tantrums, and showing signs of jealousy all the time, lashing out. I’ll be honest. I was kinds expecting the worst. Avery had perfected her art of throwing tantrums. And a new baby would be the perfect excuse to lose her mind more often.
I wasn’t sure what to expect when Avery came to the hospital to see Callie for the first time. I just knew I missed Avery so much and wanted to see her and cover her with kisses.
As soon as she got to the hospital room, she knew who Callie was. We had been telling her Callie was in my tummy while I was pregnant and calling her by name. But I was so surprised that when she saw a baby in the room, she knew it was Callie. We didn’t even have to introduce her. She just went right to her saying, “Hi Callie!” It was very sweet. Then after about 5 minutes, Callie lost her appeal. Avery went on her business and that was fine with me.
That’s how it was when we brought Callie home. Avery would fawn over her for a few minutes at a time. Then she would get bored and go off and play. It was perfect for the getting adjusted at home period.
My days are now filled with random declarations of love. “Mommy! I love Callie! I love ‘er” “CALLIE! So cute!” It is seriously the sweetest thing in the world. And I may have teared up once or twice when she says these things.
Now, she hasn’t been a perfect angel 24 hours a day. If Callie is crying for a long time, Avery will cover her ears sometimes and yell for Callie to “Calm down” or “Quiet!” Sometimes Avery gets distracted and nearly walks over Callie laying on the floor. Callie has been accidentally kneed in the head more times than I’d wish to count.
But overall, I couldn’t be happier with Avery’s transition to big sister.
And let’s talk about Callie. And how much she adores Avery.
Avery is the only one who can make Callie laugh everyday. I can’t remember the last time I was able to make Callie laugh. Callie’s favorite is when Avery takes both hands and they dance together while Avery sings.
The mornings are the best. They are both in crabby moods until they see each other. Callie gets hugs and kisses and all the attention from her big sister. Makes a great start to the day.
A few weeks ago while I was fixing a toy for Avery, she was playing with Callie. She got close to Callie’s ear and I heard her whisper, “Callie I love you. You so beautiful.” My heart exploded. Seriously.